As parents raising our own children, there's indisputably going to be hard phases when our children seem to be going thru a hard time, having issues coping at school or their emotional nature a bit more delicate than usual. They maybe finding it tough to make friends. Their behavior could be exhausting to the point of disappointment for a while.
Often, our children will grow out of it and move on to the following stage of their life.
But what if this phase continues? Jobs are becoming way too much of a struggle and our child complains of being beat all of the time, not having the ability to keep up in the same way as their peers and quite overtly finding it more difficult than maybe it should be to cope in school/and or home. ADHD, ADD, dyslexia and varied other labels could have been advised and your child's “phase” is now changing into a clear problem and is making their world tougher than it should be. This is when we want to look beyond thinking that it could be just a phase in their development and ask ourselves is there something else going on?
There are plenty of factors that contribute to a child having the ability to move well, speak fluently, play and develop the skills required for every day educational, and social learning. Without getting too far into the structure and function of the neuro development system they include:
MOVEMENT & Developmental MILESTONES
As babies we've all got a development movement sequence that we follow, this maps neurological pathway’s in the brain. Most of it happens through natural movements and play. First we learn to roll, then to creep on our tummies, then to rock on hands and knees, then to creep, and then we stand up, gain our balance and learn to walk. All the time we are progressing through important developmental stages, we are setting the elements in place for learning readiness. We are building up strength and co-ordination, our eyes learn how to focus and we have started to sound correct of our physical world.
SENSORY INTEGRATION
Both hyper and hypo sensitiveness cause irregular functions in smell, taste, tactility, vision, hearing and can confuse the experience of where ones personal body is in space.
It is really important to try to understand the attentional concerns of the children we are engaging, as we each have different concerns based upon our own sensory perception of a situation. A sensitive child may simply be able to target the system/s that is taking over their nervous system. If the sensory system has not integrated in a fully developed fashion it's going to be most unlikely to concentrate on express activities and block out unwelcome background noise, smells, touches and other stimuli. The foundations of the senses need to be rock solid for the higher sensory systems to operate effectively so making us socially, and emotionally more at ease and able to cope with tasks such as reading, writing, and mathematics.
Spotting evidence of a weak or juvenile neurological system:
Approaching and overcoming theses problems
Part of the puzzle is that a kid can be struggling for a number of reasons. We want to consider all areas that might be affecting or have influenced the child thru their life, such as: birth, health factors, nourishment, allergies and intolerances, emotional difficulties, stress, environmental surroundings, reflex integration, sensory sensitivities and development milestones.
We want to do not forget to target the causes of the issues not the symptoms.
So where do we go from here?You will have many calls to make and it can be hard to understand quite what to do to achieve the best outcome. It is important to find the correct pro at the best time. One that may steer you with a holistic standpoint and refer you to other professionals should they see this as more beneficial.
Responding to a questionnaire before you commit to any care could be a superb way for both parents and specialists to make a start. A clearer understanding and information can start to flow from there on. You may speak to other people that may have gone thru, or are going through similar issues that perhaps can offer some guidance. Find parent support groups that you can join and don't be frightened to ask. About things you are confusing of. Search web sites, read applicable material for information and teach yourself about what perhaps going on with your child. Be prepared that there won't be a “quick fix” as neurological issues that have manifested over a period will also take time to strengthen and restore balance. Also, always remember, that in order to treat, we must glance at the kid in total.
How can I help my kid?
By evaluating, understanding a kid and taking a worldwide point of view we can get to the main cause of a child’s issues, identify feeble and immature areas and start to fortify those neurological systems that are striving to cope. In doing so we are giving the child the possibility to reach their total potential, buttressing them from the interior out.
Rachael Sherry is a mom, NLP expert and independent writer focusing on relationship advice.
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